Relationships can be difficult to maintain, even with a “stable” day-to-day life. For military spouses, those difficulties become amplified by military life. Training, long hours, deployments, and more contribute to the magnification of relationship issues.

Bianca Martinez-Oberhelman joins Dr. Fedrick on this episode of Calm, Cool and Connected. She is a retired military spouse currently residing in Fort Lauderdale, Florida. She was been there at the beginning and throughout her husband’s career in the SEAL Teams and the transition to a civilian family. She did all of this while maintaining her own careers. Super Woman? Is that you?

Key Takeaways from Dr. Liz’s 1-on-1 with Bianca:

Hear about Bianca’s story
Learn about the phases of being a military spouse
Find out how she managed the “disruption” of deployment homecomings
Discover why Bianca calls deployments “survival mode” for the spouse left at home
Hear the importance of resiliency in the military spouse community
Learn some of the signs that someone you love may need help

All of this and more, on this episode of Calm, Cool and Connected.

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